Gender identity is typically defined as the concept of the self as male or female. But the reality of gender identity is far more complex since gender variance is not uncommon. For example, gender identity may differ from an individual’s birth-assigned gender. Transgender people include those whose gender identity does not match their assigned gender. And transgender people differ.
While some experience distress and want to live as the other gender, this is not true of all transgender individuals. And gender identity is different than sexual orientation (e.g., a transwoman who identifies as a woman although their birth sex was male, may be straight, gay, or bisexual).
It is also important to recognize that not everyone is clearly biologically male or female. Approximately 17 of every 1,000 people are intersex and possess chromosomal and anatomical features of both males and females. And even those whose gender identities correspond to their birth-assigned gender vary in how compatible and contented they are with their gender group, how central their gender identity is relative to their other identities, and how they express their gender identification.
Like most things human, gender identities arise from a combination of biological and social factors. Although uncertainty remains regarding the neurobiological basis of gender identity, it appears that prenatal intrauterine hormonal exposure in the second half of pregnancy interacts with multiple genes to influence brain development in ways that impact gender identification.
Because sex differentiation of the brain takes place later in fetal development than sexual differentiation of the genitals, gender identity may be incongruent with an individual’s biological sex. Gender identity variation is unsurprising when you consider this complex biological formula and how the ingredients and their combinations may vary.
Developmentally, most children identify themselves as a “boy” or a “girl” by age three. By middle childhood, children have fairly stable conceptions of how well they fit their gender category, how content they are with their gender assignment, and how much they are expected to conform to gender stereotypes.
Gender schema theory posits that once children internalize societal “gender lenses,” gender becomes an organizing cognitive framework and the child is motivated to construct their gender identity accordingly.
Although most children come to identify with their natal (birth) sex, some experience gender incongruence with their birth-assigned gender and some are gender dysphoric (experience a sense of discomfort with their biological sex and assigned gender role), and at an early age (sometimes as early as two years), express dissatisfaction with their assigned gender. This occurs to varying degrees with some indicating they want to become the other gender and some expressing anatomic dysphoria - dissatisfaction with their sex-specific anatomy.
However, less than a quarter of such children remain gender dysphoric in adolescence. Gender dysphoria also occurs during and after puberty though underlying mechanisms remain uncertain.
But despite diversity in gender identification and expression, and that intersex individuals are not uncommon, most cultures perceive gender as a clear-cut male/female binary to which we must conform.
Such minority stress negatively affects the well-being of many gender non-conforming people and leads many of us to suppress parts of the self associated with the other gender.
Pathologizing non-traditional gender identities is also problematic from a human rights perspective since it leads to violations of the human right to health and negatively impacts other rights, including the rights to housing, employment and education.
I know that some people find the idea that gender variance is normal and acceptable , but for some, They are uncomfortable with non-traditional expressions of gender (like women presenting as “masculine” or men displaying “feminine” traits). They get grumpy and frustrated when they can’t easily identity someone as female or male, gay or straight.
Think about it this way: perhaps it is not gender variant people that are in need of fixing. Rather, what needs fixing is how we think about gender identity and gender identity expression.